Monday, February 23, 2009

Exercising Futility

I am so frustrated.

Little Boy came home from school with none of his work done. Again. So we are (again) not at swimming, for which I paid a reasonably large sum of money for him to be on the team. There's a meet on Wednesday, and he (again) might miss it because he's (again) doing daytime schoolwork in the evenings.

I nagged and bothered and forced him to do his schoolwork on Saturday, despite begging to do it on Sunday (we all know where that ends up!). Then on Sunday when I asked if everything was finished and ready to go, he (again) found work he "forgot" to do the day before.

It's not like I ask him to remember what work needs done! He has a notebook in which he writes down assignments, and there's a checkbox next to each subject to mark off when he finishes.

This shouldn't be so difficult - but he comes home with checks where things aren't finished, no checks where things are finished, and just plain doesn't write down continuing projects, like book reports, except on the day it's assigned.

I'm out of ideas, I'm tired, I'm frustrated, and I can't make him do work at school if he doesn't "feel" like doing it (today's excuse). Yet he came home and is quietly working through the work while I ignore him.

I don't get it.


Alwen said...

No advice, but plenty of sympathy! I got so tired of herding our kid through a day's worth of school work night after night.

(My verification word is "meeny".)

Monica aka Gloria Patre said...

My verification word is "crosesse" and I think junior is yours to carry... my heart goes out to you but there's no magic solution, just patience. In spite of appearances, it is just as hard for him as it is for you - really! He does want to please you and feel good about himself too. If growing up was easy it wouldn't take so long.... hang in there!